A new husband went to a sage for some advice, “Why does my wife complain about me bitterly and why is she rude to our servants?”
The sage said to him, “Why are you asking me? Ask yourself!”
Confused by the sage’s response, but knowing there was a lesson to belearnt, he began to ponder on an old saying, “If you suffer from anguish because of your servants, it is due to your own error in action. If your partner curses you, it is because you have failed to master your words. If your children trouble you, it is due to your obsessions with wayward thoughts. If you align your thoughts, words, and deeds with discipline and sacredness, all your distresses will turn to joy.”
The new husband understood that if he wanted to improve the situation, he must first begin with himself.